celbone's Xanga

show

Thu, 06 Jul 2006 06:25:53 GMT

Friday, September 02, 2005

Fri, 02 Sep 2005 01:57:01 GMT

Peeling The Onion
Breaking Through Barriers

The human psyche is almost infinitely complex, made up of layers upon layers of thoughts, experiences, emotions, fears, loves, and goals. Those who seek to find the true essence of being or to move past a fear find that there are many intermediate steps along the way. When we first look inward, we look at ourselves as a whole, when in fact we are only seeing the surface. Like an onion, if we move past the surface, we will find another layer. Moving past that, we find yet another layer. These layers are barriers and everyone has them. You may work past one fear only to be confronted with a deeper, underlying fear. Or you may fully assimilate a revelation only to find other aspects of that revelation that you had not discovered. How many layers you will confront before finding a resolution is unknown. This is the journey, this is life.

But the journey to the center of the onion - what they called sunyata in Sanskrit or mu in Chinese - can be an enlightening experience in and of itself. As you break through each barrier, you gain a more profound understanding of your own mind and come to learn the unique facets that make up who you are. You will become intimately acquainted with your needs and wants, reactions, aversions, pleasures, and pains. You will discover qualities within yourself that have been buried by the years or by old hurts. This knowledge is cumulative. As you break through one barrier and confront the next, oftentimes more powerful, barrier, you will be equipped with the knowledge of self that you have gained during your searching.

During the "peeling of the onion," you may feel frustrated because it can seem like progress is slow or nonexistent. But don't let the multitude of layers bother you. Many of the qualities that make us who we are may be hidden at first. The process can continue indefinitely, for with self-discovery comes growth and thus further discovery. The more you learn, the more you will inevitably find, as you travel deeper and deeper within your soul.

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

Wed, 17 Aug 2005 03:13:51 GMT

Closing Cycles
by Paulo Coelho

One always has to know when a stage comes to
an end. If we insist on staying longer than the
necessary time, we lose the happiness and the
meaning of the other stages we have to go
through. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending
chapters - whatever name we give it, what matters
is to leave in the past the moments of life that have
finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship
come to an end? Did you leave your parents'
house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting
friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend
a long time wondering why this has happened.
You can tell yourself you won't take another step
until you find out why certain things that were so
important and so solid in your life have turned into
dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be
awfully stressing for everyone involved: your
parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your
children, your sister, everyone will be finishing
chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with
life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a
standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at
the same time, not even when we try to understand
the things that happen to us. What has passed will
not return: we cannot forever be children, late
adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards
our parents, lovers who day and night relive an
affair with someone who has gone away and has
not the least intention of coming back. Things
pass, and the best we can do is to let them really
go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it
may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of
things away to orphanages, sell or donate the
books you have at home. Everything in this visible
world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of
what is going on in our hearts - and getting rid of
certain memories also means making some room
for other memories to take their place. Let things
go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.
Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so
sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do
not expect anything in return, do not expect your
efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be
discovered, your love to be understood. Stop
turning on your emotional television to watch the
same program over and over again, the one that
shows how much you suffered from a certain loss:
that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting
love relationships that are broken off, work that is
promised but there is no starting date, decisions
that are always put off waiting for the "ideal
moment." Before a new chapter is begun, the old
one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has
passed will never come back. Remember that
there was a time when you could live without that
thing or that person - nothing is irreplaceable, a
habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it
may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity
or arrogance, but simply because that no longer
fits your life. Shut the door, change the record,
clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being
who you were, and change into who you are.

Tuesday, August 02, 2005

Tue, 02 Aug 2005 04:22:22 GMT

Living Exploration
Discovering What You Want Through Experience

The road to knowing what you want is often paved with many moments of learning what you don't want. This holds true in all areas of life, from work to love. Knowing and accepting this can give us the courage to keep moving forward when we might otherwise paralyze ourselves with fear of making a wrong move.

All too often, we expect ourselves to know in advance what will or won't work. But this would be like accepting an invitation with a new dance partner only if we are sure, before dancing with them, that we will want to dance with them forever. We need to accept the invitation without knowing where it will lead us. When we accept the invitation, what we are committing to is exploration.

It helps to remember that choices and decisions are not permanent or final actions. They are just the first steps in an unfolding process of inquiry. Many people go to school for one thing and end up in a completely different career path. This does not mean that they made a mistake by studying English Literature and then becoming a nurse. One thing leads to another in ways we can't always foresee.

Try to remain open and curious all along the way, asking questions. How does this feel? How could it be better? What changes can be made to improve the situation? With each modification, you move closer to creating exactly what you want. But remember, sometimes we need to experience what we don't want to determine what we do want.

Thursday, June 23, 2005

Thu, 23 Jun 2005 02:41:45 GMT

All love shifts and changes. I don't know if you can be wholeheartedly in love all the time.
Julie Andrews

Wednesday, June 08, 2005

Wed, 08 Jun 2005 04:00:53 GMT

If you're lying to me, I'll kill ya. If I think you're lying to me, I'll kill ya. If you leave anything out, I'll kill ya. As a matter of fact you're gonna have to work very hard to stay alive. Do you understand? Good, cause if you don't, I'll kill ya.

Lock, Stock, and Two Smoking Barrells

Hate is baggage, life's too short to be pissed off all the time, its just not worth it.

American History X

Hope is a good thing... maybe the best of things... and good things never die.

Shawshank Redemption

Even if we never talk again after tonight, please know that I am forever changed because of who you are and what you meant to me.

Holden, Chasing Amy

The distance between insanity and genius is measured only by success.

Tomorrow Never Dies

Thoreau once said most men lead lives of quiet desperation... Don't be resigned to that. LIVE LIFE!

Robin Williams in "Dead Poets Society"

Sunday, May 22, 2005

Sun, 22 May 2005 09:14:24 GMT

Top 10 signs that she's a keeper

by Jonathan Carlson
I must admit that playing the field is a whole lot of
fun, but so is being in a serious relationship --
provided that it's with the right woman. But how do
you know if she really is the right woman for
you? If she possesses the following 10
traits, my advice is that you hold on to her for dear
life. You don't want to run the risk of having some
other guy swoop down and steal her away from
you.

10. She's independent
No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit.
Once in a while -- like if she's had a rough day at
work -- it's great to be her shoulder to cry on. But if
she can't seem to function without you and is
constantly after you, she will eventually make you
feel like you're suffocating, which is a surefire way
to get you running for the nearest exit. On the
other
hand, if she has her very own personality and
opinions; can stand on her own two feet, both
financially and emotionally; and is able to
enjoy time away from you (while still missing you,
of course) then she must be a great
girlfriend.

9. She's intelligent
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo
routine gets real old, real fast. A woman who can
meet you at an intellectual level is a total turn-on.
Instead of being the one in total control, you'll find
yourself trying to figure out what's really going on
in
that brain of hers.

An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you
and keep you on your toes -- she won't let you get
bored of her. Besides, it's nice to have something
to talk about when you're not, er, otherwise
occupied.

8. She's sexual
A great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible
with you. For instance, if you're the hardcore
leather type and she's the dainty lingerie type,
well,
that could be a problem. The two of you have to be
on the same page -- or she at least has to be
willing to expand her sexual horizons from time to
time.

7. She's beautiful
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important
nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want
to look good for you, but also for herself. She
should always look her best and be well put
together.

6. She respects you
This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you.
This means that she listens to you, even if she
doesn't necessarily agree with what you're
saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean
or belittle you in any way, shape, or
form.

5.She lets you be a man
Do not -- I repeat -- do not get involved with a
woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese
and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give
up poker night with the guys. You will end up
resenting her more than you can imagine. A good
girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker
night and all. If she's a great girlfriend, she'll even
bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and
make you some of her famous
sandwiches.

She has to understand that men and women are
different and should allow you to be yourself. Just
like you wouldn't deprive her of going shopping with
her best girlfriend, she shouldn't expect you to give
up the guys for her.

4.She's nagless.
There is nothing worse than a nag!
A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her
battles wisely. She knows when to speak-up and
when to let it slide. You don't want a girlfriend who
will give you the heights of hell for leaving a couple
of dishes in the sink occasionally.

However, if you live together and you stay out all
night without calling her, and she lets you have it,
then you're setting yourself up for disaster. This is
a situation that nobody would let slide -- not even a
great girlfriend.

3.She gets along with friends & family.
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the
kitchen,listen to your dad's stories, and hang out with your
friends, she will enjoy it. She'll make a real effort to
get to know and love the most important people in
your life. And she won't try to get you to ditch your
best buds.

She'll actually empathize with your brother's
getting
dumped and suggest that you guys take him out
to
cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won't
roll their eyes and moan when you mention that
she'll be joining you guys when she gets off work
(yes, women like this do exist).

2.She loves you.
If you have found a woman who
loves you for who you really are and not who you
pretend or try to be sometimes, you should
definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn't try
to change you is hard to find. Of course, everyone
has their slightly annoying habits that their mate
has to contend with, but if she really loves you,
she
will be able to cope with these. Another way to
know if she really loves you is by observing the
way she looks at you and treats you on an
everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn't seem to
faze her either way, and she doesn't really seem to
care about what you have to say, she's either
playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some
guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you
makes her light up, there's no denying that she
loves you.

1.She makes you want to be a better man.
Stop making that face... Any man who has a great
girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him
want to be a better man. She doesn't have to say
or do anything; it just is that way.
If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated
your sister or find yourself trying to get your
finances in order, you might want to think about
your motivation for doing so. It could be
love.

Do you already have her?

So, if this list seems to describe your current
flame, you, my friend, are styling. In fact, you are
probably the envy of all of your friends, even if they
tease you for losing your status as "king
player."

However, if the woman you are dating is more like
the polar opposite, then I don't think that getting
serious with her would be in your best
interest -- but you knew that already, didn't
you?

Saturday, May 21, 2005

Sat, 21 May 2005 02:08:42 GMT

Moving Into A New Phase
Outgrowing Friends

Every one of us lives a life colored by individual and changing experiences, perceptions, needs, and desires. We connect with others, becoming friends and confidants, most often because they share something with us, such as an interest or need. But as time goes on there is change, and the bonds that brought you close to a treasured friend may not be enough to sustain the relationship. You may find your lives have gone in wildly different directions and you no longer share the same aspirations, or you may have changed on an energetic level. It is not unusual in such a situation to find that the comfort you found in the other person has vanished and that you have trouble relating as you once did. Outgrowing a friend can be confusing or painful, but it is a natural part of one's personal growth.

You have a right to choose to surround yourself with those people who understand you, are helpful and compassionate, and put you at ease. Months or years into a friendship, you may find your friend no longer seems like the same person he or she once was. The change may have been within them, but may also have come from within you. Moving on does not mean that your past shared experiences were not meaningful or important to you both, but rather it acknowledges your needs in the present. Ending a friendship can be difficult. You may not feel comfortable explaining your reasons for doing so. Even so, you can still be kind, respectful, and considerate, and simply state that you can no longer devote time to the friendship. When you have made the conscious decision to let go of the relationship, it will most likely happen naturally.

The people who are or have been a part of your life each taught you something. Some friendships are long-term while others are brief. In all relationships, however, it is important to embrace changes and to let go of regrets. While you may outgrow the need to maintain a friendship with someone who was once very special to you, that person will nonetheless always occupy a place in your heart.

Sunday, May 15, 2005

Sun, 15 May 2005 07:26:25 GMT

hehehe im outta here!

Friday, May 06, 2005

Fri, 06 May 2005 03:37:38 GMT

hey toothfairy ..i think your Dongkeh...was inspired with this poetry hehehe...

I am a Rock by Simon and Garfunkel

I've built walls,
A fortress deep and mighty,
That none may penetrate.
I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain.
It's laughter and it's loving I disdain.
I am a rock.
I am an island.

I have my books.
And my poetry to protect me;
I am shielded in my armor,
Hiding in my room, safe within my womb.
I touch no one and no one touches me.
I am a rock.
I am an island.
And a rock feels no pain;
And an island never cries.